I was like most teenage girls who had a boyfriend in high school, they think they are going to get married and everything will be great. But that wasn’t how my life is. I thought I had it all figured out, I had my life pictured how I wanted it. My life I pictured crumbled right before my eyes when I found I was pregnant. I had just graduated high school and still living with my parents when I found out. I told my boyfriend and he told me to take care of it. After that I told him that was the end of the relationship.
Growing up LDS (mormon) I knew abortion was not an option. My options were keep the baby and raise the baby as a single mom or give the baby up for adoption. I was in the singles branch at the time, its where anyone who is 18-30 and unmarried goes to church, so I went to the bishop and asked him what I should do and how I should tell my parents. He told me I should give the baby up for adoption if I wasn’t going to marry the dad. I thought about giving the baby up, I even looked at adoption profiles. The more I thought about it the more I couldn’t imagine giving part of me to some stranger raising my baby.
By this time I am about 2 months pregnant and still haven’t told my parents. I knew I couldn’t hide it much longer and I had to tell them soon. I was so scared that they were going to kick me out. I had no job, no car, and no where to go if they kicked me out. I sat both my parents down and told them I had something to tell them and I didn’t know how they would take it then I said, “I am pregnant!” That’s when the tears started because I was preparing for the worst. Then my mom said, “You are not aborting the baby, and we will support you if you chose to keep the baby or put it up for adoption.” I was in shock! Did I hear her right? They are going to support me? I couldn’t believe what she said to me. Then my mind started thinking what are people at church going to say to my parents? I have made them look like bad parents. But I am thankful they are supporting me and letting me live with them.
I decided on keeping my baby and I went through my whole pregnancy without my baby’s father and it is the best decision I have ever made! I am now blessed to be the mom of a gorgeous baby girl who has become my entire world. She has made me rethink a lot of my decision and has pushed me to make a better career for her and myself.
I know being a single mom can seem like a scary thought. Just know that there are many single moms out there who may be going through the same thing. Confide in them share your story with them and reach out to be a friend to them. As a single mom I can tell you I am struggling to find friends, but I have my beautiful daughter who I get to have as a best friend. Keep your head up and know that you are going to be the best mom to your child.